Before you think about the divorce, there’s always a consideration of marriage reconciliation. It allows you to think about the causes leading to divorce and the small give-n-take both of you need to do to improve relationship. You tend to prolong your decision for the sake of your family and children. Because you know it – divorce may be the last option but its consequences are quite distressing.

Most of the time, and on the basis of current situation in Singapore, women rather than men seek divorce more often, and there are quite a few reasons for it. Any divorce lawyer will tell you regarding “irretrievable breakdown” that, on most occasions, leads to separation or divorce. This article focuses on the some events forcing a person to take a life-changing decision. But before you proceed with these events, here are some important terms and conditions to consider:

Plaintiff: A person who files a Divorce Writ

Defendant: The person against whom the divorce Writ was filed

Co-defendant: The person sharing accusations with the defendant

Requirements by the family court: Different countries have different requirements to qualify for divorce. According to Singapore family law, your marriage must have passed 3 years. If you have suffered “exceptional hardships” and you can prove them in the court, you can still file a divorce writ before the completion of 3 years of marriage. Additionally, you can file a divorce writ if you or your spouse has been residing in the country for more than 3 years.

Following are the major reasons of irretrievable breakdown:

1. ADULTERY

If the defendant has committed adultery with the co-defendant, and the plaintiff has decided not to live with the defendant, the court may allow the plaintiff to file the divorce writ. However, the plaintiff has to submit a private investigation report to the court, stating the details of adultery.

2. UNREASONABLE BEHAVIOR

If, due to continuous bad behavior from the defendant, the plaintiff finds it intolerable to live with him, and he/she can prove such behavior in the court, the plaintiff is allowed to file the divorce writ. Sufficient allegations must be accompanied by the Divorce Writ, in order to persuade the court.

3. DESERTION

The plaintiff may file a divorce Writ if the defendant has deserted him/her. However, the period of desertion may vary. In Singapore, a period of 2-year of abandonment is considered as desertion. The plaintiff must prove that the defendant has not returned during the entire period.

4. SEPARATION

Family law in Singapore considers following circumstances:

  • Both the spouses are living apart for at least 3 years and the defendant agrees to divorce. If both the spouses live under one roof, plaintiff must prove that both of them have separate household.
  • If the period of separation exceeds 4 years, with above mentioned conditions, the court does not require defendant’s consent to divorce.

There may be different causes of such breakdown, and each of them can be tolerated. There are many support groups, forums and counseling institutes where you can seek assistance. In fact, your divorce lawyer may ask you to join any of these platforms and strengthen your bond with your spouse.