EX-SPOUSES SHOULD LEARN CO-PARENTING, CHILDREN OF DIVORCE AND MANDATE COUNSELLING AND STEPSIBLINGS LIVING HAPPILY TOGETHER
Have you been too much concerned about your children as you’re going through divorce process? Are you worried about parenting your children after divorce?
In countries where divorce rate is on a rise, such as Singapore, kids are the direct targets of personal issues between their parents. In their conflicts, parents mostly ignore how their (bad) behavior impacts little brains.
If you are the one having fears and concerns related to post-divorce life, especially your kids’, following news updates have a lot of stuff to help you.
COUNSELLORS POINT TOWARDS THE IMPORTANCE OF GOOD RELATIONSHIP ON CHILDREN’S WELLBEING
Referring to 13-year old Ethan’s unreasonable behavior, counsellors at Singapore Children Society say that the boy’s intention behind shoplifting a game cartridge was his way of seeking attention. Ethan was 3-year old when his parents divorced, but he was kept in the dark until his teacher taught him what ‘divorce’ meant.
The kid, and other kids like him, shows such behaviors in order to urge their parents to learn co-parenting. Good divorce lawyer will always advise his/her clients not to keep ex-spouse away from children. Otherwise, actions like those of Ethan’s are bound to happen.
However, in 2011, CFRC (Child Focused Resolution Centre) was established to help divorcing couples to learn how to co-parent. The purpose of CFRC is to offer counselling and mediation, and has been made mandatory by State Court. Parents with at least one child under 21 are instructed to visit the centre for counselling.
MANDATE COUNSELLING FOR CHILDREN WHO ARE COPING WITH TRAUMA
According to Family Justice Courts, from 2004 to 2014, there has been a consistent rise in number of children under 21 years, whose parents have been divorced.
The inception of Family Justice Courts last year is considered as a good step towards protecting the rights of children of divorce. One of the functions of these courts includes appointing professional family lawyer who represents a child in the court. But it’s not a necessity in every case.
Here, the above mentioned a must-have counselling program (especially, Parenting Pact Programme) is a crucial step to help parents consider the impact of divorce on their children below 14 years.
AS DIVORCE RATE IS ON THE RISE, STEPSIBLINGS HAVE LEARNT TO LIVE TOGETHER
According to Kamila Tasha Kummah, she and her three siblings had spent the hardest part seeing one parent bashing another. She was one-year old when her parents divorced. According to her mother, as Katy’s father remarried, he must focus on his new family. Step parents
Kamila (also known as Katy) said her mother prepared her, her sister and two brothers, mentally before meeting her stepsiblings. She said it was helpful and now, the four of them living together with 3 stepsiblings from her mother’s previous marriage.
This complex family structure involving two stepfamilies seems to run along smoothly. Children have developed good relations among themselves and with each other’s biological fathers as well.