If your partner wants a divorce but you don’t, it’s not the end of the world. First things first, try to identify the root cause of the problem. Find out why your partner is not happy with you. After all, the relationship was not so unpleasant even a few months or years ago! What has changed over time? Is there any way you can stop her from visiting a divorce lawyer? Maybe you two can visit a marriage counselor, instead. Here are some steps you can take as your last ditch effort to save the marriage.
Listen patiently to your partner
Constant clash of ideas or decisions could be one of the main reasons you and your partner fight every day. None of you is ready to listen to anyone due to previous grudges and bitterness in relationship. If you really want to save your marriage, one of you has to put down your ego and start listening to your partner. And just listening with an angry gesture will not help. You need to respect your partner’s views and then politely give your opinion. When your partner will find a sudden change in your behavior, chances are that she’ll listen to your point or at least take you more seriously.
Don’t blame or underestimate your partner
When you argue, you perhaps blame your partner for everything. Or, maybe you constantly try to impose your opinion on your spouse by using abusive language. This type of behavior can hurt our partner and widen the gap in your relationship. Make it a point to not be offensive or rude to your partner or to any of her friends or relatives. Instead, keep your calm and talk to your spouse one on one. Try to get your point across, but don’t try to offend her with your rude behavior. Show her that you still care for her and want to sort out things through discussions.
Give her the support she needs
If you really want to save your marriage, don’t turn a blind eye to her problems. She may need you a little a morale boost from you before an important meeting at work. Or, she may want to talk to you about a new challenge in her life. In any case, you should support her to the best of your abilities. Don’t avoid her but listen to her politely and always encourage her to keep a positive attitude in life. Tell your partner that you’ll be there for her, no matter what. A little support from you can go a long way to help save your failing marriage.
Think about your kids
Breaking a relationship is very easy, but it takes a lot of time to build one. If you have kids, your divorce can affect them as well. Whenever your partner talks about divorce, you should tell her to think about your children. Try to imagine what would be their state of mind, if you finally decide to end the marriage. Always try to solve the matter through discussion, so that your kids do not suffer.