Whatever the reason may be, whether you’re divorcing your spouse because of the differences you cannot remove or you’ve found him/her crossing the limits, it’s not as easy as it looks. The longer the marriage period the harder it is to let go of the person and the memories associated with him or her. But you have to do it one way or the other.
Here are some tips from a professional divorce lawyer Singapore, who’s been in this profession for almost three decades now, seen some really bad cases and provided his services to hundreds of clients.
1. PATIENCE IS THE KEY TO RESOLVE DISPUTES
When you’re divorcing, you are likely to be overly defensive and eager to rip each other apart. You lose control on many occasions forgetting the entire married life and the beautiful moments in it. Even worse, you tend to forget your core responsibilities – your kids.
This gives rise to unresolved disputes. You will be apart, but it can be in a better way. It is better to leave someone in a way that he’ll open his doors for you when you come back next time.
2. PLAY YOUR ROLE AS PARENT
Although, the rules for children rights have been quite strict now, you should play your role without anyone telling you what to do. Your children are not responsible for what your spouse has done or what you did to break the relationship. They deserve the right treatment and your responsibility towards them will almost be the same, in fact more than before.
3. UNDERSTAND DIFFERENCES AND ACCEPT THE REALITY
People don’t react wisely when they go through divorce. If you take the matter a little lightly, and think it’s a little less complicated than what it looks like, there’s a chance for you to get back to normal life soon.
In reality, it’s not the case though. There are quite a few examples when one ex-spouse abused the other and the law enforcement authorities were involved to suppress the violence.
4. YOU’LL GET WHAT YOU DESERVE
Majority of divorce cases stuck at the point of distribution of assets and finance, andmaintenance. It is sad that often many couples fight over this when money is involved. Some to the extent that they don’t want to give even a penny. If you understand the rights of your spouse and children, and realize that they’re going through even tougher period then you do, there won’t be any such thing happening in divorce.
5. LET GO OF YOUR PAST AND LOOK INTO FUTURE
Post divorce life has always been terrifying for people. There’s hardly anyone who’ll say he’s come over his past. It takes time and effort to start a new life. There will be times when you’ll think about the disputes, ask questions to yourself, and blame yourself for not tackling the situation in different manner.
But, that wouldn’t help you at all. In fact, if you dig deeper into it, you’ll get worse, and reach nowhere. If you consult a psychotherapist and participate in workshops for divorcees, chances are you’ll get over it quickly and start a new life sooner.